Your major mistake
It’s time to get real.
YOU are the reason that your transformation hasn’t been successful.
YOU have cheated on your diet.
YOU didn’t wake up early to get your workout in.
YOU haven’t given everything you have but you still expect a return.
Lets cut the excuses:
It’s NOT your metabolism
It’s NOT your genetics
And its NOT anyone else’s fault.
But let me be real with you, you aren’t alone. Even as I sit here writing this blog, I can think of countless times that I have been less than perfect in my pursuit of change. I slept through alarms, went to dinner with friends and made poor choices, and gave a half assed effort in the gym.
None of this changed until I took control.
There came a time when I finally had to realize that no one gave a crap about whether or not I transformed. If I didn’t get off my ass and do the work, it was no sweat off the back of my friends, colleagues, or anyone else in the world.
Subconsciously I would sabotage things. I would spend thousands of dollars on a coach then not follow what they told me do. Surely it was their fault, they wrote the plan – right?!?!
“When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you’ll be successful.”
It’s easy to get into a routine with some bad habits, but I’m going to give you some ways to avoid some of the major obstacles in you achieving your transformation goals.
NOT HAVING A CLEARLY DEFINED GOAL
One of the questions on my initial client intake form is “please describe your goals in detail.” Sometimes the response I get is “lose weight.” Now if you know me personally, you know that I probably want to write back “no shit.” Obviously I think better of it and choose to keep my words to myself, but seriously what part of DETAIL did you not understand?
Goals need to be precise. When I first started training I had goals: I didn’t just want to gain muscle. I didn’t just want to be a model. I wasn’t out to be the local trainer at Gold’s Gym. I knew that without a shadow of a doubt I want dot be on the cover of a magazine. Not just any magazine – Muscle and Fitness! In all fairness I haven’t quite accomplished that one yet, but I have been published several times over, been a featured spokesmodel for two major companies, and have appeared in local media on a regular basis. Not a bad consolation.
Fast forward to now. My goal is to help PERSONALLY help 100,000 people. I don’t want to do this with some giant team, or hide behind a certification program. No, this is me wanting to personally interact with one hundred thousand people and change their lives. Yes this is a massive goal, but isn’t that the point? DREAM BIG!
So what is your goal? How much weight do you want to lose? How much muscle do you want to build? What will those goals do for you? Get exact, and let every action you take on a daily basis bring you one step closer to that goal.
GOING AT IT ALONE
When I battled my eating disorder I had two choices. Try to find a way to eat more or actually get help. Thankfully I had some amazing people in my life that cared enough to help (Damon Moore and Stephanie Tortorella, if you are reading this – I love you both!). Their generosity has since inspired me to pay it forward.
Finding a coach or mentor is priceless. When I wanted to grow my training studio in Beverly Hills I hired a coach. Now that I have my 100k person goal, I’ve hired a coach to help me reach those people. I want to get my golf game back to scratch so I’ve hired a swing coach. No matter what I do in life, I find a coach. I learn from the people that have been there and done that.
“A wise man learns from his mistakes, an even wiser man learns from the mistakes of others.”
Now that you have your goals clearly defined, find a coach to help you. My personal coaching program has helped thousands of people change their lives. Those clients knew what they wanted, sought out the help, and I can happily say that many of them are now paying it forward to others. Drop your ego. You don’t know everything, if you did you wouldn’t need goals, you would be on top of the world.
My coaching program can be found here: Jason Phillips Fitness Coaching.
WANTING RESULTS YESTERDAY
I’m not gona sugar coat this one, results take time – period! If you want to lose weight, the weight you are losing certainly didn’t pile on last night. If you want to gain muscle, understand that lean tissue can take awhile to build 1-2lbs of solid muscle a month would be huge progress!
Shows like “The Biggest Loser” have sensationalized the transformation process and made it appear like something that happens overnight. Realize that those contestants are contained in a home where they do nothing but workout, and upwards of 7 hours per day. Those results are not only not typical, but in some cases dangerous.
Transformation takes time. Embrace the process. It sounds cliche, but make it a lifestyle change. When you enjoy what you do on a day in and day out basis, you will always be more successful. Think of your job, if you like going to work everyday then I’m sure you excel. If you feel like you are forced to drag yourself into an office you hate, I would be willing to bet your performance reflects it. Find a path that suits you, enjoy it, and stick with it!
Wrapping it up:
Look, despite all the gimmicks out there true transformation requires effort. I refuse to sit here and blow smoke up your ass, telling you it will be easy and the you will have a blast. There are days you will hate it – those are the days you ned to embrace the most. The process is simple – define your goals, find a mentor, stick with the plan!